If you haven’t noticed, it’s prom season, when girls hide in the back of the room with their laptops during class, scrolling through endless pages of Rent the Runway dresses; when guys sit at the lunch table conversing about what sophomore is remotely appropriate to take. Nonetheless, it wouldn’t be a GFS event without some upsets, Quaker process, and round table lunch discussions.
The most talked-about issue has been promposals (promposal: a proposal from one person asking another person to prom). Teachers and students have expressed discomfort and upset about how people are asking other people to prom. I find this blind to the harder issues of prom:
1. The tickets are $100
2. The tickets were $95 and went up to $105 because of a return bus ride
3. The tickets are now $100
Teachers and staff have given kids so much heat about asking each other to prom that they forget some of the real issues. How about the people that simply cannot go? What about the kids who haven’t even thought about prom simply because the tickets are so expensive?
That is the real privilege here. The privilege to be able to talk about prom without thinking about the economic expenses that come with it. It divides the kids who are on financial aid and those who walk through GFS with $100 lunch accounts. Kids on financial aid can email the coordinator, Mirangela Buggs, for financial assistance. However, emailing Buggs does not guarantee adequate assistance for a ticket.
And, what if you’re not someone who receives financial aid? What if your parents pay full tuition out of their pocket and simply cannot afford to buy a ticket in addition to many other expenses.
It is evident that we live in a privileged community where those who are upset are only looking at the superficial issues surrounding prom.
Prom is about celebration. We should all encourage each other to share in the fun, whether one chooses to celebrate it with another friend, partner, boyfriend, or girlfriend, whether they are gay, straight, black, brown, beige, tan, pale, ginger, Jewish, and/or Latina.
Besides, you never know who isn’t asking someone simply because they can’t afford it, not because they don’t want to.